Children who see other children being bullied in most cases are afraid to speak out.
They think if they say something the bully can turn on them or that they can be his next victim.
There are studies that have shown how some children who are spectators of a bullying situation have joined in on the bullying too.
I read a story of a child who witnessed a bully situation, told her parents what shesaw and both the mom and dad told her not to tell anyone or "stay out of it." Our children need to be taught what to do in a bullying situation even if they are not the victim. Like I have have told thousands of students at the many schools I visit each year; "A hero is someone who hears something, tells someone and puts an end to it."
Monday, July 30, 2007
Thursday, July 26, 2007
Team No Bully!
The best way to put an end to bullying is to work as a team.
If your child or a student is a victim of a bully you should create a No Bully Team.
Each member keeps a watchful eye to not only silently protect the victim but also make sure that the bully isn't bullying other students as well.
There was a teacher at my son's elementary who was a great anti-bully team member.
One of his students was on the verge of becoming the classroom bully. When ever the boy would tease or try to push another kid he would quickly walk over to him, put his arm on the kids shoulder and gradually guide him away from the kids he was bullying. In time the boy stopped teasing and pushing other kids.
Please share your comments and suggestions: www.richardpaull.com or richard@richardpaul.com
If your child or a student is a victim of a bully you should create a No Bully Team.
Each member keeps a watchful eye to not only silently protect the victim but also make sure that the bully isn't bullying other students as well.
There was a teacher at my son's elementary who was a great anti-bully team member.
One of his students was on the verge of becoming the classroom bully. When ever the boy would tease or try to push another kid he would quickly walk over to him, put his arm on the kids shoulder and gradually guide him away from the kids he was bullying. In time the boy stopped teasing and pushing other kids.
Please share your comments and suggestions: www.richardpaull.com or richard@richardpaul.com
Wednesday, July 25, 2007
Cyber Bullying Information
Richard,
While you were in the kids' tent at Muskegon Summer Celebration, we talked a bit about software to monitor and control kids' Internet access. I've been trying to find a few good suggestions for you, but the list is long. I've been trying to narrow down the list of potential software for monitoring kids online - MAN is there a lot of it out there these days! So far, it's looking like the reviews I've found are generally liking either WebWatcher or NetNanny (as far as Windows machines go) - but admittedly I've not had a chance to really read all of the reviews I've found in various searches.
It appears that the main thing to consider is what kinds of features you want:
Some have remote monitoring, some send reports via email, some you have to physically access the machine being monitored to get the info. Some have to be configured on the machine being monitored, some can be configured remotely. Some offer an administrator a chance to override a block temporarily, some that's apparently a chore. The list of "this will", "this won't", "this one maybe...." goes on for every feature you can think of.
Prices vary from free to just over $100, and some of them require online service plans that I've seen priced at up to $150.00 per year. (EEK!)
I'll keep trying to sort out the list, but if you can send me a quick note with the features you consider primary, I can focus my search on more appropriate targets. :-)
Chat with you later!
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Ken Thies Owner/Engineer
KaT's Corner Recording
While you were in the kids' tent at Muskegon Summer Celebration, we talked a bit about software to monitor and control kids' Internet access. I've been trying to find a few good suggestions for you, but the list is long. I've been trying to narrow down the list of potential software for monitoring kids online - MAN is there a lot of it out there these days! So far, it's looking like the reviews I've found are generally liking either WebWatcher or NetNanny (as far as Windows machines go) - but admittedly I've not had a chance to really read all of the reviews I've found in various searches.
It appears that the main thing to consider is what kinds of features you want:
Some have remote monitoring, some send reports via email, some you have to physically access the machine being monitored to get the info. Some have to be configured on the machine being monitored, some can be configured remotely. Some offer an administrator a chance to override a block temporarily, some that's apparently a chore. The list of "this will", "this won't", "this one maybe...." goes on for every feature you can think of.
Prices vary from free to just over $100, and some of them require online service plans that I've seen priced at up to $150.00 per year. (EEK!)
I'll keep trying to sort out the list, but if you can send me a quick note with the features you consider primary, I can focus my search on more appropriate targets. :-)
Chat with you later!
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Ken Thies Owner/Engineer
KaT's Corner Recording
Tuesday, July 24, 2007
Cyber Bullying
Cyber bullying is a new tool bullies have been using to hurt their victims. I was presenting at a school in Houghton Lake, Michigan and when I arrived my client informed me of a cyber bullying issue that took place the evening before and how the victim was devastated.
There are many products on the market that parents can use to police what is being sent. unfortunately I have yet to hear of a product that puts a sent item in a holding pattern till a parent can review it. I have been told by many technicians that there are no full proof ways to catch the bully before he strikes on the Internet. They say the best defense is the parents watching and overseeing the computer activities.
If you have a comment or suggestions please share it on this blog or email me at
richard@richardpaul.com
There are many products on the market that parents can use to police what is being sent. unfortunately I have yet to hear of a product that puts a sent item in a holding pattern till a parent can review it. I have been told by many technicians that there are no full proof ways to catch the bully before he strikes on the Internet. They say the best defense is the parents watching and overseeing the computer activities.
Here is some information on parent control software:
http://www.consumersearch.com/www/software/parental-control-software/index.html
http://www.microsoft.com/windows/products/windowsvista/features/details/parentalcontrols.mspx
If you have a comment or suggestions please share it on this blog or email me at
richard@richardpaul.com
Monday, July 23, 2007
Self-Esteem = No Bullying
The best way to reduce bullying at school or at work is by improving your selfesteem.
Research has shown that students and adults with low selfesteem are more likely to be victims of a bully. The best defense one has against a bully is their selfesteem The better you feel about yourself the less likely anyone will bother you.
Helpful tips:
1) Get up in the morning look in the mirror and appreciate you .
2) Make your bed and make up your mind it is going to be a great day.
3 Hold your head up high and smile at everyone you meet.
4) Pat yourself on the back and or cheer on yourself.
5) Make a list of the things you like about you and read it in the morning and before you go to bed at night
6) Be thankful for your life and your abilities
7) MOST IMPORTANTLY LOVE YOURSELF!
Any comments or questions feel free to email me at www.richard@richardpaul.com
For information on my Life Lessons CD or Programs visit http://www.richardpaul.com/ or
http://www.motivationalspeakerrichardpaul.com/
Research has shown that students and adults with low selfesteem are more likely to be victims of a bully. The best defense one has against a bully is their selfesteem The better you feel about yourself the less likely anyone will bother you.
Helpful tips:
1) Get up in the morning look in the mirror and appreciate you .
2) Make your bed and make up your mind it is going to be a great day.
3 Hold your head up high and smile at everyone you meet.
4) Pat yourself on the back and or cheer on yourself.
5) Make a list of the things you like about you and read it in the morning and before you go to bed at night
6) Be thankful for your life and your abilities
7) MOST IMPORTANTLY LOVE YOURSELF!
Any comments or questions feel free to email me at www.richard@richardpaul.com
For information on my Life Lessons CD or Programs visit http://www.richardpaul.com/ or
http://www.motivationalspeakerrichardpaul.com/
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