I was at my Credit Union talking to the teller who recognized me from middle school and high school. We talked about the people we knew from school and if we had seen any of them since graduation. She asked me what I was doing and I told her I present No Bullying educational programs for schools, parents and staff. She went on to tell me that she use to bully a little boy in elementary school. She didn't know his name but she thought is was funny to make fun of him on the playground, in the lunch room or walking down the hall. The boy moved away and she didn't see him again so she thought. Many years after school she met a guy who is now her husband. Turns out he was the little nameless little boy she bullied forty years ago.
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Wednesday, April 25, 2007
Friday, April 20, 2007
Eye Contact and Smiles
Hey Rick!
Thanks for the Ezine! I liked the article on eye contact. I am working with this concept in the office with my employees...not that I'm bullying them, mind you :) but letting them know that making eye contact with our patients, especially when presenting treatment or fees shows confidence and patients sense that. We do role playing quite often and that is one skill we practice a lot! I have had some of the employees tell me that keeping a smile on their face helps them to keep eye contact because a smile can be very engaging. If a patient is upset over something and I am called to discuss the matter with them I put on my best smile look straight in their eyes and lower my voice and for some reason that always diffuses them! Anyway, thanks for the article, I plan to share it with my employees as a reinforcement for what we are trying to accomplish. Enjoy the beautiful day!
Blessings,
Judy
Thanks for the Ezine! I liked the article on eye contact. I am working with this concept in the office with my employees...not that I'm bullying them, mind you :) but letting them know that making eye contact with our patients, especially when presenting treatment or fees shows confidence and patients sense that. We do role playing quite often and that is one skill we practice a lot! I have had some of the employees tell me that keeping a smile on their face helps them to keep eye contact because a smile can be very engaging. If a patient is upset over something and I am called to discuss the matter with them I put on my best smile look straight in their eyes and lower my voice and for some reason that always diffuses them! Anyway, thanks for the article, I plan to share it with my employees as a reinforcement for what we are trying to accomplish. Enjoy the beautiful day!
Blessings,
Judy
Understanding why bully's bully
Hi Richard,
My name is Kim Nuxhall (Mr.) and I'm an elementary character/p.e. teacher in Fairfield, Ohio. Just wanted to add my comments/experiences on dealing with bullying.
I work with my elementary kids on a couple of things:
1. Understanding first what bullying is.
2. Understanding "why" bullies bully. I explain to them that bully's are actually very scared people and unhappy with themselves inside. That something has happened or is happening to them that has made them unhappy and scared inside.
So.....I tell my students when they are being bullied to look at the person and tell them that you are sorry they are not very happy inside. Also.....I tell my students to "Use the Wall" and imagine an invisible thick wall around your self that only lets the good words in and the bad stuff can't penetrate. Finally....I talk to them allot about not giving the bully any power over them to get them upset, which is what the bully wants to get.....power over them.
Keep up your good work,
Kim Nuxhall
My name is Kim Nuxhall (Mr.) and I'm an elementary character/p.e. teacher in Fairfield, Ohio. Just wanted to add my comments/experiences on dealing with bullying.
I work with my elementary kids on a couple of things:
1. Understanding first what bullying is.
2. Understanding "why" bullies bully. I explain to them that bully's are actually very scared people and unhappy with themselves inside. That something has happened or is happening to them that has made them unhappy and scared inside.
So.....I tell my students when they are being bullied to look at the person and tell them that you are sorry they are not very happy inside. Also.....I tell my students to "Use the Wall" and imagine an invisible thick wall around your self that only lets the good words in and the bad stuff can't penetrate. Finally....I talk to them allot about not giving the bully any power over them to get them upset, which is what the bully wants to get.....power over them.
Keep up your good work,
Kim Nuxhall
Wednesday, April 4, 2007
CONCERNED PARENT.
Dear Richard,
My daughter has been a victim of bullying at 3 different schools. Now she seems to be doing the best she has ever done academically. I have spoke to the parents of these girls. One appologized at our house. The other one quit picking on her. The last one, the instigator, will not let loose. She has even caused her to do poorly on a group project by not including her and omitting her work. The teachers were informed of this. I have been to the principal...twice. She still continues to call my daughter names and forbid her friends to talk to my daughter and they follow her orders.
I have asked my daughter to sit somewhere else at lunch and make new friends, but she claims everyone is mean to her and she has no friends. The ones she does have don't want to sit by her because they think it's mean how there friends treat her but don't want to lose them as thier friends.
Help...
Our school claims to have a bully policy, but I have yet to see any results and the kids just seem so mean. My daughter is very shy, until she gets to know a person. I wish I could go to the school during lunch and get these kids to mingle and meet each other.
Do you have any suggestions. I don't know if the school would be willing to hold an assembly.
Sincerely,
Susan Spencer
I shared some information with her via email, do you have any suggestions you can share with Susan. Send them to richard@richardpaul.com and I will post them on the blog.
My daughter has been a victim of bullying at 3 different schools. Now she seems to be doing the best she has ever done academically. I have spoke to the parents of these girls. One appologized at our house. The other one quit picking on her. The last one, the instigator, will not let loose. She has even caused her to do poorly on a group project by not including her and omitting her work. The teachers were informed of this. I have been to the principal...twice. She still continues to call my daughter names and forbid her friends to talk to my daughter and they follow her orders.
I have asked my daughter to sit somewhere else at lunch and make new friends, but she claims everyone is mean to her and she has no friends. The ones she does have don't want to sit by her because they think it's mean how there friends treat her but don't want to lose them as thier friends.
Help...
Our school claims to have a bully policy, but I have yet to see any results and the kids just seem so mean. My daughter is very shy, until she gets to know a person. I wish I could go to the school during lunch and get these kids to mingle and meet each other.
Do you have any suggestions. I don't know if the school would be willing to hold an assembly.
Sincerely,
Susan Spencer
I shared some information with her via email, do you have any suggestions you can share with Susan. Send them to richard@richardpaul.com and I will post them on the blog.
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